So much of what we read or have read in the past leads us to believe that we need to "get past", "get over", and have "closure" after the death of our child.  This was, in the past, thought to be the only way to "move on" or "move forward" or continue with a healthy life.  Ask any bereaved parent and they will clearly tell you they do not want "closure" with the love and connection with their child.

 

Although most grief and loss research does not focus on the loss of a child, this devastating loss is now being researched. Recent research is now beginning to show, what bereaved parents have always known, you do not need to have "closure" after the death of a child.  I don't know of any parent that wants to  have "closure" on their beloved child!!!

 

The love and loss you have with your child can always remain with you.  The pain of the loss will lessen and allow you to begin to find a new life, without the physical presence of your child in it.

 

There is a desire and need for bereaved parents to keep the love and connection with their child.  When people who have never had a child die, refer to the need for "closure", I like to give them a copy of  my feelings, what I refer to as "Closure Crap".

 

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